Lost Lover Found is a continuation of access for those interested in learning about, understanding, or experiencing First Love, Lost Love, or Reconnection.
Everyone has had a ‘first love’. Many of those loves were ‘interrupted’ and did not reach their natural conclusion. Often resulting in marriage or breaking up. The interruptions prevent these natural conclusions, resembling “Oh, you’re too young to be so serious.” “You can’t see him/her anymore.” “it’s just puppy love.” Parents move away for jobs, or first loves join the military or go to colleges across the country or in a different country.
(Think the movie, “The Notebook”)
Life goes on for both partners, but they never fully ‘get over’ that first love. Many go on to marry others, start families, create lives that appear to be good.
Then life presents a trigger. A Class Reunion invitation, or a funeral of a former classmate. A Lost Lover will begin having memories or dreams of that first love, songs play on the radio, driving through the old neighborhood, visiting places you went to with your first love. You think what harm could it do to do an online search. The wheels ae turning, and the obsessiveness begins.
*WARNING: I strongly advise that individuals seeking a reconnection with their lost love absolutely DO NOT make contact if either party is married.
The reasoning is that once contact is made, a whirlwind of extreme emotions (hormones) are released for both individuals. These emotions stem from the initial relationship as first loves. The interruption in that first relationship that prevented the natural evolution of that relationship. Many are left wondering for decades why the First Love relationship ended. They have been left with Abandonment Trauma that has remained unresolved, until the reconnection.
Those reconnecting feel tremendous levels of youthfulness, deep love, excitement, fear of potential rejection, and relief once contact is made.
Unsuspecting folks often believe they can ‘resolve, gain closure or just catch up’ with their lost love. Only to very quickly find they are not able to end the reconnection. Nor do they want to. The Abandonment Trauma is triggered and this cements the connection. Often creating at the very least, an Emotional Affair if either is married or in a committed relationship.
Reconnections if either party is married, will indeed jeopardize those marriages. Even if the affair is never discovered.
Lost Lover Found does not encourage or promote affairs. In fact, the information provided to those seeking support encourages clarity in decisions being considered to prevent/minimize harm to all involved.
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